The Comparing Game.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

I've never been the type of person that counts down the days until the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show. In fact, I've never even made a point to watch it.

I hardly have to watch the show to know what was going on. My twitter timeline (and every other social media network) was filled with talk about the show. And by talk, I mean teenage girls comparing themselves to the models, talking about how they wanted to starve themselves, and lots of self hate. 

View image on TwitterThis picture was tweeted with the caption 'Tonight's dinner' and retweeted over 200,000 times.

Isn't there something wrong with this image?

I'm not advising you never to watch the fashion again. No, not all. On the contrary, I just want to confront the unhealthy obsessions that resonate with the image of the fashion show.

I have no problem with the models or the show in general. I do, however, have a problem with the negativity that surrounds the show. Being in high school, I witnessed negative and unrealistic comments nearly every day after the fashion show at school. People comparing themselves to the models shared their thoughts that consisted of things like: "I just want to be an angel because then I would be perfect," "Why am I so short? If I was taller then I would be perfect."

Let's get this straight. Yes, the models are beautiful. But, if you suddenly woke up and looked like a model, society's view of perfection won't guarantee you lifelong happiness. 

Comparing yourself to others may not seem that bad. In fact, it sometime may seem motivational, but the only person you should compare yourself to is you. Comparing your body to another person's body is only going to lower your self confidence.

Also, remember that every single person is different. Because everyone is different, comparing yourself to someone else is unrealistic!

So, don't compare yourself to someone that isn't you. Instead, focus on loving you and loving your body. Because loving yourself is way better than being a Victoria's Secret Angel.

This was a little bit of a serious post which isn't the norm for me, but it was a topic that was on my heart after witnessing such negativity amongst my friends this past week! It's finals week for me which means lots of studying and not a lot of time for anything else! I hope you all are having a marvelous week!

Thoughts on the fashion show or comparing?

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  1. Bravo! You nailed my exact view on comparison!! I remember a while back I would always compare myself to other people. I'm not even talking about celebrities, I'm referring to the average woman walking down the street. It wasn't until Joshua finally put his foot down & told me he would no longer answer my "am I pretty than her? "am I skinnier than her"? questions, that I stopped asking. It was the best thing that could've happened & has since built up my confidence & self esteem.

  2. I had an eloquent comment all typed out and then my fingers freaked out and refreshed the page. Ugh.

    This is a tough issue. Social media, the interwebs, the magazines at the grocery store - they all make it downright easy to have instant access to information that make it easy to compare ourselves to others. I love the Liz Mace tweet above and quotes that focus on strength and healthy living rather than ribcages and waistlines. We're all built differently. But we all have hearts and brains and all those other integral parts that make us human. If we focused on those similarities in humankind and worked to live healthy lifestyles, I think the drive to compare would fizzle a bit.


  3. Amen to this Katherine!! I actually watched about half of the show and ended up turning it off because all I could think about is how many girls are out there comparing themselves to supermodels right now! I wish they did a VS fashion show with real women from all over, of all different sizes and shapes. THanks for posting girl!

  4. PREACH it darling!! I don't watch this show EVER. Or any Miss USA competitions or anything like that. Those shows are just triggers for me and while I do think that these women are utterly gorgeous, I do realize that 1% of the population looks like them. Its just unrealistic for me to ever compare myself to them, because I can NEVER look like them! So I just try to stay away all together to avoid the comparison trap!

  5. This is a GREAT post Katherine!! I've never watched the fashion show and I really don't plan on it. I hate society so much,,,, they say to be happy in your own skin but then every single ad and tv show and model is practically anorexic! Thank you for writing this!

  6. Such wise words! I've not watched the VS fashion show before but I can imagine how it would bring up thoughts of comparison like that.

    Goodluck with your finals this week.

  7. Very well written. I haven't watched the Victoria Secret show ever and I'm pretty glad that I've not ever even had the inkling to WANT to watch.

    Good luck with your finals! Study hard and sleep lots :)

  8. This is such a great post girl!! The comparison trap is easy to fall in to, but you're right that true happiness can only come from within. Good job spreading the word!
    I hope you're doing well!! I've missed you while I was away from blogging! I hope your finals go well and you have an awesome Christmas! <3

  9. Great post! This is something that happens all the time, & also something that's fairly easy to fall into. We all just need to find the beauty in ourselves & try love ourselves for who we are & be happy. :)

  10. Seriousness is okay by me- especially since this is something I think everyone can relate to. It's almost impossible not to compare! I did way too much of it when I was younger, until I realized that everyone has different body types and it's not about how you look, it's about your attitude.
    (Happy Holidays!)

  11. THANK YOU. This is why I love your blog!

  12. I just found your blog, and all of these posts are truly incredible. Thank you for sharing!


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