Girls Compete With Each Other, Women Empower Each Other

Friday, May 29, 2015

Sometimes after an afternoon nap, you somehow end up sitting on the floor talking to your mom about anything and everything. Today we established that finishing high school is a really weird thing. You're about to embark on this new and exciting journey, and literally everything is about to change. 


These past few months, I've watched some of my "girl" friends become women that are about to conquer the college world. Some of them are off to Ivy League schools, others are taking over the world at state schools. I've been honored to watch them receive scholarships and awards and countless other honors. I am nothing but proud of my friends, but all of this has really got me thinking about how young women are constantly bombarded by the idea that they are in competition with each other.

Before I delve too deep into this, let's talk about Taylor Swift. I've always loved Taylor Swift. I loved her when it was cool to hate her, but from a non-subjective point of view, she's living proof that life gets a lot better once you stop wasting your energy comparing yourself to other women. She's using her energy to empower other women, and look where that's gotten her. She just released a music video with over 20 cameos from powerful women during an awards show that she completely swept. She's become a feminist role model, and let's face it, her music is hella good. (Yes, it's 2015. You can stop pretending that you don't secretly jam out to her catchy tunes.)

Since 2008, Taylor knew that the only person you should compare yourself to is yourself, as seen in her "You Belong With Me" music video. 


I unashamedly loved Taylor  in 2008, but 2015 Taylor Swift is a force to be reckoned with. She said it best in a recent interview, "If we continue the perception that women should be compared to other women we're doing ourselves a disservice as a society.”

I think a lot of unnecessary things in society are made into a competition. During my final year of high school, I've seen a lot of women defined by numbers. Instagram followers, Facebook likes, Twitter retweets, weight, SAT scores, ACT scores, GPA, class rank, number of college acceptances, etc. No one ever really verbalizes it, but these numbers become this competition that everyone turns a blind eye to. Just because another woman is successful or inspiring or beautiful doesn't mean that you aren't. 

So no, I'm not angry that I have a friend going to Harvard next fall. I'm not jealous that one of my friends got a full ride to her university. I don't secretly wish that I had made my college's dance team like a girl from my high school did. If anything, I am so excited to see what the future holds for all of these inspiring women in my life. Because let's face it. Life's way better when you stop comparing and competing and start empowering.


Gentle reminder: You can uplift yourself without having to bring down others. You can empower yourself without having to tear other women down.

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  1. Live in that glorious feeling girl! So proud and excited for you! It feels like I just graduated yesterday, not a year ago!

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  2. "Because let's face it. Life's way better when you stop comparing and competing and start empowering."

    ...couldn't have said it better myself. Even though you might not have admirable things your friends do, you've got something that very few have, and that's a creative and inspirational voice. Now that's a true gift Katherine.

    Also, I'm totally jealous of all your mom time. I miss mine like crazy!

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    1. You always leave the nicest comments for me, and you seriously make my day. I hope you have had a lovely Sunday xx

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  3. Congratulations on your graduation! This is a lovely message. We should raise each other up, not tear each other down.

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    1. Thank you so much!! And you are completely right. If only every woman thought the way you do! :-)

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  4. Beautiful photo of you and your mother!! Even though you aren't going far...cherish these moments you have with her before you go away to college. And congratulations once again! I agree, you have a wonderful voice and I always enjoy reading things from your perspective!!

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    1. I'm actually going to college 6 hours away from my mom, so I'm definitely cherishing all the time I get!!

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  5. I love this reminder! Other people's success doesn't take anything away from us or make us less valuable or less gifted or whatever. Such a great post!

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  6. Mhmmmmm. This is beautiful, Katherine. The title of this post could not be more true. Life is a million times better when you're not comparing yourself to others. I'm not a mega fan of T-Swift, but I do love her message and genuineness even in the big spotlight.
    Keep doing you, girl. Congratulations ♥

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    1. I'm not gonna lie, I love UT, but I'm a little bit disappointed that we won't be hanging out in Boston next year. Also, you're the best. You are so sweet!!

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